For me, astrology is a way of organizing a chaotic world. There are many other organizational tools in play, such as my liberal politics, my Methodist upbringing, my life in Academia, etc. But there is so much chaos to organize, and one so often wishes one could predict the future. Having astrology is like having rocks to throw into the ocean. It doesn’t make any difference to the Future, that expansive ocean, but it is something one can do and feel empowered. This feeling of empowerment is especially important in the face of that terrible affliction, Love. Love creates and destroys Futures. Love is a Red Sea path through the tyranny of Time, but it is also the kind of magic that sometimes doesn’t work, that leaves one stranded when the Sea closes again, or drowns one in the magnitude of a solitary and unknown future.
My blog has been getting a lot of hits lately from people searching for zodiac compatibility stuff. My general opinion on zodiac compatibility is that it’s nice to read when you’re in love and you want to read about your own love affair, with the zodiac characters as substitutes for yourself. It’s like reading a valentine written for you and your lover by a stranger. Reading love poetry has the same effect. But, one has to take astrology (like any governing/organizational tool, like religion or political theory or anything else) with a heap of salt. Although the position of the planets and stars at the time of one’s birth seems, to me, just as likely as anything else to shape one’s identity; and although people often do seem to act as their sun signs suggest they will (and their actions are often even further clarified when their whole chart is known); people are also shaped by many other forces, and sometimes act totally opposite from what their sign would predict. In other words, it’s as flawed a system for determining how things will turn out as anything else, so if you’re planning to have a relationship with someone, basing your expectations on their sign (especially just their sun sign) might be a huge mistake. If you’re in love, go with it– don’t get intimidated by what someone says about your sun sign compatibility.
That said, and with the caveat that my chart is totally different from anyone else’s and I have my own personal issues on top of all that, so these alignments might not be true for anyone else, I have the following insights into sun sign compatibility vis-a-vis Scorpio (my sign):
Aries: In love, power struggles. Aries have to control everything. Then again, some of my best non-sexual relationships are with Aries: mom, Charles, kthread…
Taurus: Some books say this is a good match with Scorp because it’s opposite, but I don’t believe it at all. Taurus is way too predictable and boring to keep a Scorp interested, especially in bed.
Gemini: Not ordinarily the best Scorp match because Gemini are flighty, but I like Gemini. But, my moon is in Gemini.
Cancer: A good, loyal match for Scorp, and almost as sexual as we are. Potential communication problems– where Scorps are jealous, Cancers are clingy. So if you can work that dynamic out, great. My longest romantic relationship and my longest friendship were/are both with Cancers.
Leo: I find that I have a lot of Leo friends because like Scorp, they like to be in charge and are creative. But I’ve yet to have a successful relationship with one, because in Love I find them controlling and argumentative.
Virgo: Virgos tend to admire Scorps and thus are very attractive– who doesn’t like to be admired? Scorps like the security and maturity Virgos can provide. But ultimately I’ve found Virgos too predictable, too secure, too mature for a lasting relationship. I need the right combination of the secure and the unpredictable.
Libra: Great as friends, but not really compatible as long-term lovers. Discerning, like their sign would suggest, and trustworthy. Great social glue for meetings of opposing signs.
Scorpio: The sex, my god, the sex. Emotionally volatile. But the sex! … I have a lot of Scorpio friends, and most of my best friends are Scorps. If you ever wanted a true friend, get a Scorpio. Having a Scorpio on your side is like having your own Elba. You can always go to Scorpio to rant and rave, restock and plot revenge. Scorps can be awful, but there’s no getting rid of them… their love is hard-won and never really lost.
Sagittarius: I like Sag. They can seem flighty but they’re super loyal.
Capricorn: I’m constantly drawn to Capricorns (my rising sign), but it never works out. Dynamic, creative, invigorating… but too difficult to pin down.
Aquarius: Quite a temptation for the serious Scorp, light-footed Aquarius seems to see the future, encourage Creation in all its forms, and otherwise dabble in everything Scorpio fears. Intoxicating, but never works for very long. Good for friendship, but as a Scorp, don’t expect too much of an Aquarian.
Pisces: Wishy-washy on the surface but deep underneath, like the sea. I’ve yet to meet a male Pisces worth the trouble.